- Sermon Notes
Husbands Love Your Wives
How many of you are married? Single? Want to be married?
Today we are going to focus on what Paul has to say about Marriage…God designed Marriage…It is not our role to change it, yet our culture is attacking it from all angles.
Society gives the allusion to single people that the perfect person is out there waiting for you. You really need someone who loves the Lord and is pursuing Him. They are walking in the Spirit filled life with joy.
Marriage doesn’t have to be a conflict - life is full of them however, and the scripture promises us trials. They do not have to divide our homes.
Great General Montgomery; “Gentleman don’t even think about marriage until you’ve mastered the art of war” :)
Genesis 1:27-28 Reminds us that God created man in His own image, male and female, that He blessed them, and said be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth…
READ Genesis 2:18-24;
Why should we get married?
1)To have children
2)Eliminate solitude - “not good for man to be alone” -we all need accountability in our lives
I Cor 7:2; But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband.
- Build Godly character
4) Minister together - in what I call for the sake of the Gospel. Marriage is patterned after Christ’s covenant commitment to His church; Eph 32.
➢Take personal inventory against that list in your marriage. If you are single I am really glad you are here.
ILLUSTRATION: One of our most frequent issues in Pre-Marital Counseling - The current generation has few role models for marriage. The Culture is full of fantasies about love & looks and broken families.
How about this Marriage idea; Bliss till death - Do you believe it can happen - I’m here to tell you it can happen. But In Christ, must be the answer
ILLUSTRATION: Personally, over the years I have from time to time had to reorder my wants or needs to help meet my family’s needs - my #1 priority was to set my life’s course to do that. God chose to -
PERSONAL: Who would have thought 20 years ago when we came to this church, I a business guy with a large family along with Sherri, a stay-at-home
mom, that the Lord would in this day have me on staff, counseling couples for years now, speaking about marriage in places like China…and on
it goes…we are no different than many of you - we’ve simply done our best to do it God’s way and been willing to ask Him to help and use us.
Ladies - I’m taking it easy on you today. You are to be for your husband or future husband what the church is to Christ.
I KNOW GUYS - WOW PASTOR SHAWN, SURE AM GLAD I CAME TODAY.
➢Where are each of you on this topic? Paul, I am right there with you man - teach me how to raise the bar as a husband…
I. HUSBANDS LOVE YOUR WIVES
READ EPHESIANS 5:25-33
➢Now we can say, “Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” How did He love the church? He died on the cross, giving Himself up for the church whom He loved.
➢Behind all of this starting in vs 18-21; God calls us to be walking in the Spirit, to be born again so we can do that and to be submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
➢It’s the fruit of the Spirit that we long for; these are the good things we want to bring forth out of the good treasures of our heart.
➢The heart that is filled with the Spirit has regard for others.
➢In marriage, the Holy Spirit is our power supply as we run into roles - with it we can serve and support one another - without it we are focused on ourselves, our wants, needs & desires.
Acts 13:52; And the disciples were continually filled with joy and with the Holy Spirit.
➢Submission is not reserved for our wives ‘men’ - it exists in all relationships throughout life. Are you able to say -?
oI humble myself to serve others
o——————- to assist others
o——————- to submit to help meet the needs of our flock here at Calvary
Mark 10:42-44; “You know that those who are rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them…But it is not this way among you, whoever wishes to become great among you shall be your servant; and whoever wishes to be first among you shall be the servant of all.”
➢ Never a Rule of Authority - not Biblical
➢This flows right into our marriage study – All of us Husbands need to submit to the Lord and His teaching.
➢There is an authority structure that God has established so there can be order and peace in our relationships.
oHusbands - humble yourselves to help meet your wife’s needs
oMen are often too eager about the wives submitting
oHusbands almost always are the ones in counseling who ask, “how do I”
ILLUSTRATION: This reminds me of the story of a husband and wife coming in for counseling…
An Amazing Love
Rom 8:35; Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword?
Be Understanding & Honorable
I Peter 3:7; You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.
II. TAKE CARE TO NOURISH & CHERISH
PERSONAL: Son-In-Law requesting daughter’s hand in marriage
The Marriage is Sacred
Vs 31; Leaving your father and mother; the two shall become one flesh - Leave father and mother, but also leave anything from the past that will drive a wedge between you. And then cleave…
Mark 10:9; What God has joined together let not man separate - Unwavering commitment - Nothing can separate the Church from Christ
Wives Respect Your Husbands
PERSONAL: One of our favorite and most effective marriage bible study and counseling tools is Dr. Emerson Eggerichs material called, Love and Respect. The subtitle is powerful; The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself;
29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, 30 because we are members of His body. 31 For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.