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Exodus 20:12-18

The Ten Commandments - Part 2

  • Rich Jones
  • Weekend Messages
  • January 20, 2019

We are not under the law but under grace. But that doesn’t mean we can sin as we wish. Not at all, the word ‘godly’ means, like God. The commandments give us the heart of God and each of the commandments are for the benefit of God’s people as they help us understand His heart to protect us from danger.
The first four commandments summarize the greatest commandment, love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength. The last six summarize the commandment that is like it, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’

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Honor God by Honoring Others

The Ten Commandments – Part 2

Exodus 20:12-18

In Exodus 20, Israel has come to Mt. Sinai where God gives Moses the famous Ten Commandments. Last week we studied the first four commandments.

Why did God give them commandments at all? Because they needed to be transformed. They had been living as slaves in Egypt. God set them free from the oppression,
but they didn’t know how to live as men who were free and they certainly did not know what it meant to live as a holy people. Yet that is what God
called them to be.

In chapter 19, God said, “I bore you on eagles’ wings and brought you to Myself… that you might be a kingdom if priests, a holy nation.”

We are not under law, but under grace. But that doesn’t mean we can sin as we wish. Not at all, the word ‘godly’ means, like God. The commandments give
us the heart of God and each of the commandments are for the benefit of God’s people as they help us understand His heart to protect us from danger.

The first four commandments summarize the greatest commandment, love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength. The last six summarize
the commandment that is like it, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’

In other words…

Honor God by Honoring Others

  • When you love your neighbor as yourself, you are honoring God.
  • The relationship we have to others flows out of, is a result of, our relationship to God.
  • Each of these reflects the heart of God’s holiness and righteousness and it is to our benefit to understand what God is saying in each one of these

I. Honor Your Father and Mother

  • Scripture tells us that this is the first commandment with a promise; if you honor your father and mother your days will be prolonged in the land.
    In other words, you receive a blessing from God when you honor your father and mother.
  • There are two ways of seeing that promise. Some suggest it means that by honoring your father and mother you will live a long life. I’m sure there
    has been more than one father who’s quoted the famous comedian, “I brought you into this world, and I’ll take you out.”
  • But more likely, the promise that comes with this commandment is that they will be strong as a nation when they honor their father and mother. Why? Because…

A.    Family is the foundation of a nation

  • This promise was made to Israel, but the principle is most certainly true today. The family is a foundation and a key to a nation’s prosperity and
    strength. In other words, when the family breaks down, it’s only a matter of time before that nation weakens and crumbles.
  • God’s intend with this commandment was to bless them as a nation and to keep them strong.
  • Is not the fabric of our nation being destroyed before our eyes? Many children today are defiant and rebellious. Teachers in public schools should
    get hazard pay.
  • Paul wrote that this is one of the conditions that indicate we are living in the last days. 

2 Timothy 3:1-4, But realize this, that in the last days difficult times will come. Men will be lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, and unloving…lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God.

  • The answer is to honor God in your own life and then raise your children in the admonition and instruction of the Lord.
  • There are two aspects of this commandment; 

B.   Be honorable parents

  • Paul wrote that parents should not exasperate their children.

Ephesians 6:4, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”

  • In my parenting class I give this basic principle; raise your children in such a way that they won’t need counseling later.
  • Perhaps we could also set our sights higher and bring our children to a place of agreement with our heart. In other words, win their heart. 

Amos 3:3, Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?

  • It’s interesting that Paul wrote to the fathers. God wants fathers to be engaged in raising their children. I can’t tell you how many wives are asking
    for their husbands to be invested in their family.

Illus – When we got pregnant with our first child, I wanted to be involved as much as possible. I even asked the doctor is I could deliver the baby. That was interesting.

  • That was Nicole, our first born. We were close. On the evening before she was killed, we sat for hours together at Starbucks, talking about life.
  • Build up and edify your children and encourage them so they can become godly mothers and fathers themselves. We need to train them for life by aiming
    them well. 

Illus- When I trained the kids how to ride a bike, I ran alongside holding onto the seat and shouting encouragement into their ear, but I can’t run alongside of them the rest of their lives. Aim them well and let them go, but they always knew I would be there to talk through anything.

I trained them to drive a car, but there comes a time when having me in the passenger seat telling them how to drive isn’t exactly appreciated. Like when they’re 25. But if they ever have trouble, I will be there with whatever wisdom I have.

We do our best to aim their lives like an arrow in the right direction, and then release them to make their own decisions, hopefully and prayerfully, godly decisions.

C.  Children honor your parents

  • I’m convinced that children are to honor their parents all their lives.
  • There is a natural tension between teens and parents as they often stretch out their wings sooner than they’re ready. 

Illus – I remember a time when one of our teens didn’t agree with one of our decisions. “You know what the problem is, Dad, you don’t trust me.” “No,” I responded, “the problem is that you don’t trust me. God asked me to use all my wisdom in parenting and that’s what I’m doing.”

Illus- If there ever was a teen that really did know more than his parents, it would have been Jesus. If He said, “You don’t understand,” they really didn’t understand, but the scripture says that He remained subject to them.

Luke 2:50-51, But they did not understand the statement which He spoke to them. Then He went down with them and came to Nazareth, and was subject to them, but His mother kept all these things in her heart.

  • The biblical instruction to honor our parents should be done all our lives, even if they are not believers, or made mistakes in their parenting.

Illus – When Jordi and I first considered where to plant a church, there was some discussion about going to the Seattle area and planting a church there. But I felt in my heart I should stay here in this area so I could help my mom as she grew older. In fact, when she was in her last years, all my brothers and sisters worked together to help her, and she was greatly honored.

My mom suffered and sacrificed much in this life, but she was blessed knowing her son was a pastor and when she died, you all gave her great honor.

  • One of the last things that Jesus did on the cross before he died was to take care of his mother.

John 19:27, Then He said to the disciple, “Behold, your mother!” From that hour the disciple took her into his own home.

II.  You Shall Not Murder

  • The sixth commandment assumes that in the heart of man there is great potential for anger and vengeance and thus violence.
  • This commandment is not a reference to fighting in war or to the execution of justice. In fact, the scriptures make clear that there are injustices
    that require capital punishment.
  • Why does God tell us that there is not to be any murder? Because man is made in the image of God; in other words… 

A.   Life is sacred

  • Life is a gift given by God and every person is made in His image… that makes life sacred.

Genesis 9:6, “Whoever sheds man’s blood, by man his blood shall be shed, for in the image of God He made man.”

Ecclesiastes 12:7, then the dust will return to the earth as it was, and the spirit will return to God who gave it.

  • Therefore, no one has the right to take life unjustly, because man is made in the image of God and is therefore sacred.

B.   Life begins in the womb

App – A candidate for President was once asked if he knew when life begins. He responded, “That’s above my pay grade.” It may be above my pay grade, too, but it most certainly is not above God’s pay grade and He says that life begins in the womb.

Psalm 139:13-14, For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb. I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; wonderful are Your works, O Lord, and my soul knows it very well.

  • Jesus added…

C.  Don’t be angry with your brother

  • The seeds of murder are found in the heart of man. Jesus spoke to the heart when He said…

Matthew 5:21-22, “You have heard that the ancients were told, ‘You shall not commit murder’ and ‘Whoever commits murder shall be liable to the court. But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother shall be guilty before the court;”

  • We live in an angry world. In other words, it’s not just the act of murder, it’s the heart from which actions spring forth.

Illus- We have certainly all had anger, if we take our cars out on the streets at all we understand what Jesus was saying… Although, I’ll tell you what, all you need to do is ride in a car in Africa and you’ll appreciate things much more.

  • We need a new heart. We need the Holy Spirit that brings the life of God within. When you love God above all else and put Him first in your life, you
    will not injure anyone. Anger is replaced by love.
  • Instead of being an angry person, you will be a loving person. 

Illus – Many of you know my story, that my dad was an alcoholic, abusive to my mom and an ornery old cuss. I became a very angry young man because of him. It seems silly now, but I even studied karate for years so I could confront him. But God healed my heart so much that not only did I forgive my father, I lead him to faith and baptized him myself.

Illus – Pastor Ron Mehl gave a great illustration. When I squeeze a tube of toothpaste, you know what comes out? Toothpaste. Not mashed potatoes or hair gel. Toothpaste.

  • When God is in your heart and you are being filled by His presence, that’s what will come out when life’s pressures bear down on you.
  • Jesus Himself is our example. Hanging on the cross because of the anger and jealousy of His accusers… 

Luke 23:34, But Jesus was saying, “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.”

III.  You Shall Not Commit Adultery

  • Our flesh doesn’t like “thou shall nots.” We didn’t like them when we were kids and we don’t like them as adults. But God gives them for our good,
    to keep us from destroying ourselves and those around us.
  • The seventh commandment is given because the flesh is always there, seeking to fulfill its selfish desires. It’s our flesh’s nature to desire forbidden
  • The flesh also has not morality, no sense of right or wrong. It simply wants. “Me want woman.”
  • I remember listening to a message and the pastor said, “I like lobster, but my flesh doesn’t care whose plate it’s on. It just likes lobster.”
  • God knew that for a nation to be strong marriage must be honored. In other words… 


A.  Marriage is sacred

  • Life is sacred; that is the basis for protecting life. Marriage is also sacred. It is the oldest institution on the earth. In fact, it comes to us
    from the Garden of Eden.

Genesis 2:18, Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”

  • At weddings it’s common to quote Jesus in Matthew 19…

Matthew 19:6, “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

  • Why did Jesus give us this instruction? Because it’s for our own good. The one who commits adultery has lost their good sense.

B.  Don’t lose your good sense

Illus – When the Prodigal Son spent his inheritance on worldly living, he lost all good sense. “A fool and his money are soon parted,” the scripture says. And, “On account of an adulteress one is reduced to a loaf of bread.”

Proverbs 6:32-33, The one who commits adultery with a woman is lacking sense; He who would destroy himself does it. Wounds and disgrace he will find.

  • The scripture also says that marriage is to be honored.

Hebrews 13:4, Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

  • This is certainly not the norm of the world. The world sees marriage as a killjoy, but if you would trust God that He knows how to give you the most
    blessed marriage and the most blessed life, then you would listen to His heart…
  • Remember also that Jesus is the one who forgives and restores. He can give you back a spiritual purity as He forgives and as you walk in faithfulness
    to Him.

Illus – The woman caught in adultery experienced the forgiveness of Jesus Christ, “Woman, where are your accusers…neither do I condemn you. Go and sin no more.”

App – This I know…God heart is to bless you and the one who walks in faithfulness will indeed be blessed!!


Exodus 20:12-18     NASB

12 “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land which the Lord your God gives you.
13 “You shall not murder.
14 “You shall not commit adultery.
15 “You shall not steal.
16 “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
17 “You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife or his male servant or his female servant or his ox or his
donkey or anything that belongs to your neighbor.”
18 All the people perceived the thunder and the lightning flashes and the sound of the trumpet and the mountain smoking; and when the people saw it,
they trembled and stood at a distance.


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